Sex. It’s meant to be passionate, spontaneous, and (hopefully) mind-boggling. So the last thing you may want to be doing is running through a checklist of things you should or shouldn’t do before getting down.
But they’re pretty important, not just for your health but for the actual sex you’re about to have if you want it to be as pleasurable as possible.
You may do all the right things to look after your genitals, but what about when preparing to get hot and heavy?
Here are five things you should never do before sex.
This one’s for the girls who know the crippling pain of urinary tract infections. You probably know you should urinate after sex to prevent them – that way most of the bacteria that causes the infection is flushed out.
But you shouldn’t under any circumstance be peeing before.
New York urologist David Kaufman has actually said it’s the ‘No.1 cause’ of UTIs, as it means you’re less likely to need to pee after sex. So you might not be flushing out all that bad bacteria
2) Take an antihistamine
Hayfever sufferers aren’t going to like this news.
While they help to alleviate your sniffles and watery eyes, the medicine also mucks with your genitals.
It works by drying out mucus membranes to stop your runny nose, it also drys out other areas.
Like your mouth and, we’re afraid, your vagina. As we know, a dry vagina does not lead to happy, pleasurable sex. And, it’s been argued, the use of antihistamines can affect your libido negatively.
We guess, on the other hand, this point would depend on your priorities.
If you simply can’t survive the summer without antihistamine, you should probably just be aware of the side effects. And stock up on some lube.
3) Drink too much
Sex and booze seem to so often go hand in hand, from casual drink dates to messy night outs where you end up in some randomner’s bed.
While alcohol lowers our inhibitions and makes us more likely to decide to have sex, it’s a big killer of your mojo. Women might find natural lubrication a bit of problem, while guys could find themselves struggling with whisky dick just when they need their penis to perform.
Maybe best to lay off that next bottle.
4) Buy the wrong size condom
Come on guys – are you really an XL?
Condoms that are too large for you have the risk of slipping off, so it’s really important to make sure it fits just right. The average XL condom is said to be 2.25 inches (5.7cm) in nominal width, and 8.1 inches (20.6cm) in length.
With the average penis size at 5.1 inches when erect, it’s likely you will need a smaller size.
Small condoms are 1.75 inches (4.4cm) in width and 6.3 inches (16cm) in length. Regular condoms are an average of 2.0 inches (5.1cm) wide and 7.9 inches (20.1cm) long, large is 2.12 inches wide and 7.9 inches (20.1cm) long.
5) Shave just before
We know you want that silky just-got-out-the-shower feeling.
But many physicians say that shaving just before, particularly if you prefer to have smooth genitals, can put you at risk of STIs and other infections because of the likelihood of tiny scratches and wounds.
Emily Gibson MD explains the risk in a blog post.
‘Some clinicians are finding that freshly shaved pubic areas and genitals are also more vulnerable to herpes infections due to the microscopic wounds being exposed to virus carried by mouth or genitals,’ she says. ‘It follows that there may be vulnerability to spread of other STIs as well.’
So best to leave some time between shaving and getting it on. Or not shaving at all.